SILENT ARROW FOUNDER KELLY BARRETT IS THE ORIGINAL #TRUERADGIRL
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When Kelly Barrett started Silent Arrow, she was in desperate need of a creative outlet.
After putting her career ambitions on pause to focus on her children,
she was finally ready to come out of hiding and do something for herself.
Silent Arrow is a labour of love, but it's more than just lingerie. Clashing delicate fabrics with bold cuts, it's as much about freedom as it is about fashion. It's a call to women to stand up and be seen, and not give a fuck about what anyone else thinks. These are bras you'll want to wash more than once a month.
Here, Kelly talks life lessons learned, finding confidence, and making time for herself in her crazy busy schedule.
"WHEN WE SEE A REFLECTION
OF A SIMILAR BODY TO OURS
IN MEDIA, WE FEEL GOOD."
Before I started Silent Arrow I was impacted enormously by the lingerie girls on Instagram – women who share images of themselves in lingerie purely for their own self-expression.
I noticed the more I looked at them, the more I accepted my own body. I've learned that when we see a reflection of a similar body to ours in media, we feel good.
Early on I shared a photo of myself in a swimsuit and it felt good. It's incredibly empowering when you share images of your body and say "this is me".
I started off using models [on our website], but very quickly found that it didn't fit. I want to show women that don't fit into that tiny box of what society sees as acceptable.
Most of what we post on our social profiles are re-posts of our customers in lingerie.
A woman wrote to me about a photo of ours that came up on her Facebook feed. It was a picture of Hannah, one of our customers, in the Warrior Mama bra. She had visible stretch marks and a normal post-birth belly.
This woman said she saw it and immediately burst out crying. It was the first time she'd seen someone that looked like her wearing beautiful lingerie, and it made her feel amazing. It's feedback like that that drives me.
"AGEING COMES WITH THE
AWESOME GIFT OF NOT
REALLY GIVING A FUCK."
I've always been pretty strong-minded and determined to do what I want, but I didn't always feel comfortable in my own skin. Ageing comes with the awesome gift of not really giving a fuck. I'm super lucky that I have my own business and can make my own rules.
Every day is a juggle – some days the kids win, some days work wins. I outsource as many tasks as possible and use nearly all my free time to be with my kids.
Four years ago when I worked two days a week, I had balance at home but the business went to shit. The question is "what are you willing to sacrifice today?"
I'm making an effort to plan catch-ups [with my friends] now, too. When I see them I am so inspired. They're all incredible, strong women who love and support me. It's very different than the love of my partner and kids.
I try to relax and go with the flow – I try not to stress until it's really time to stress. If that fails, I'll take a magnesium tablet, put on headphones, and listen to some chill music.
I also try to avoid too much sugar and caffeine because I know I'll crash.
I love yoga. I do it in the morning before the kids wake up – it's my time out for myself.
Most nights I'll also listen to a guided sleep meditation.
I think it's important to appreciate what you have. I know I'm lucky. My second daughter survived being born at 27 weeks and all my kids are healthy.
As a Silent Arrow community we donate undies to women in need. When I meet those women, I remember I have a safe home to live in and food on the table. So many people don't have that.
Interviewed by Emma Startup
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